It is so easy to compare ourselves to others. Their success, looks, family, home, pets, job, and even more! It is something humans have probably done as long as we have had societies and communities. With the rise of social media usage over the last decade, especially during the pandemic, it has become even more prominent.
Be it a clean house, a vacation to another country, or a shopping haul. Mega influencers are not going to post a bad hair day; they need to seem perfect to get the attention. The important word there is “seem.” What you see on the internet is fake, a filtered reality. Influencers and users of social media post the best parts of their lives. You are making an unrealistic comparison of what you can realistically be.
When you compare yourself to these “idols,” your self-esteem will drop so fast. Thinking highly of others’ looks and looking down on yours puts them on a pedestal, and leads to you thinking that you aren’t good enough. While you can choose to make yourself better, the chances of you reaching it as fast as we’d want to could give you excess stress or anxiety.
I’ll be transparent, I see people on the internet and compare myself all the time. There have been girls with beautiful hair, TikTokers with amazing video editing, YouTubers with big fanbases, people with nicer homes; it happens. The thing is, we could all potentially reach that goal. Until recently, I would compare myself but do nothing about it to actually benefit me. So I started learning how to do different hairstyles and taking care of it. I act as a video creator for a friend as I develop my skills to potentially make my own content, though I still have a ways to go. I still live with my family while I work on my schooling, so I remind myself that if I save enough money, I can have a nice home when I finish! It’s all about working for those things you want.
You may be thinking, “Talina, you just said earlier that trying to reach those goals could give you stress and anxiety.” I sure did! However, I set realistic goals for myself and worked on them very slowly. I’ve learned two hairstyles in two months, and I’m not very good at them. I make videos from time to time, not super regularly. I don’t have super high expectations set for myself yet. Not because I don’t think I can do it, but because I find it better than disappointing myself each time I “fail.” So why not be optimistic in every step we take?
Why not see ourselves the way we are and not how we want to be?
You can do this!
Good luck!
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